So, what now?

From the time you were in the womb there has been contention. Dishonesty, selfishness, betrayal and treachery. Your childhood and teenage years have been full of manipulation, misinformation and God knows what else. It seems like I’ve spent most of your life so far trying to minimize the damage, protect you as I could, yet here we are. I don’t understand why you aren’t talking to me, I have done nothing wrong. I trusted the family court system (had no choice). I believe the system is not designed to reward honesty or good faith. It seems to be the best at converting broken marriages into broken families and broken families into broken children. The more lies told, the more success was achieved. None of this has been fair to you. None of it. If I could change the past without changing you, I would in a heartbeat. I believe the Lord can make all things for the good, I have seen it in real life… I mean, out of my greatest regret He has given me my greatest gifts…you.

I don’t think you know what has actually happened. I don’t think you know the truth. I know you have been told things that are not true. I have seen numerous things alleged in court paperwork that is absolutely false. Some of the adults you have trusted have manipulated you into believing things that never happened. I am sure that must be very confusing for you, I can’t imagine growing up in the environment you’ve endured. You were taken to therapist after therapist until one was found that would push the narrative that was desired. When I look back at how we made do with the time we had, made the most of moments in hotels and shortened summers, it is hard to look back without becoming bitter. Our whole time together was controlled by others. Moments stolen at every opportunity. Skypes shortened, visits shortened, contact denied. None of this was best for you, and it wasn’t to protect you. There was nothing here to be protected from.

The cards you’ve been dealt, well we can’t change them, we can either fold or play the hand as best we can. As squirrel would say, “Just keep swimming”. The older I get the more I realize we only have this one life to live. We need to spend the time we’re given with the people that matter most. For me, that has always been you.

So, what now? I mean, you are technically an adult, you can believe whatever you want to believe, do what you want to do to attempt to be happy, but before you decide, I feel like you should at least hear the truth. So that’s what I’m going to tell you. I’ll keep it simple. No reason to go into every little thing if you don’t believe the first thing. So below you will see a button that takes you to the truth. It has all the court stuff and a single blog post that tells you enough of my side for you to decide what to do from there. When you’re ready, just click below: